“I will breathe.
I will think of solutions.
I will not let my worry control me.
I will not let my stress level break me.
I will simply breathe.
And it will be okay.
Because I don’t quit.”
– Shane McClendon
7 Tips To Eliminate Stress When Planning A Funeral
There is no time in our life more stress-inducing than losing a loved one. A death can conjure up some of our darkest emotions: sadness, anger, fear, anxiety, and guilt. These emotions can trigger the brain to release cortisol from our adrenal glands. Cortisol is our body’s primary stress hormone, and it affects our health, sleep, and mood.
Knowing how to reduce stress is an important skill set that can help us face and overcome this mightiest of challenges.
1. Take a Moment
Now is not the time to be a super-planning superhero. Planning and reviewing funeral arrangements is emotional. Give yourself permission to step away and breathe, walk, or spend time with loved ones.
Suggested Read: What Should You Know Before Planning A Funeral?
2. Talk About It
Keeping emotions bottled up inside creates stress. Seek out a loved one, friend, or clergy member and talk about your grief and pain.
Suggested Read: 4 Comparisons To Explain Your Grief And Loss
3. Keep Living
Don’t give up your class or hobby if it brings you joy. Doing something you love moves ruminating thoughts away from grief and to the activity you’re engaged in.
Exercise releases endorphins that can temporarily numb our pain. With higher endorphin levels, we feel fewer effects of stress.
5. Stay Organized
Disorganization increases stress levels. Use Everdays’ Funeral Planning Guide to make sure all of the funeral planning details are accounted for.
Click here to find even more resources and practical first steps to take in the moments after the loss of a loved one.
6. Don’t Fly Solo
Delegate tasks to friends and loved ones. They will feel valued and less helpless if they can help out in some way. Assigning trusted loved ones to assist will also relieve you of unnecessary pressure and feelings of being overwhelmed.
7. Remember “Why”
You are planning a funeral to honor and pay tribute to a loved one. Resist taking on pressure for funeral plans to be perfect and go smoothly. Instead, plan from the heart, and take comfort in creating a funeral experience that highlights the life of your loved one.