To tip or not to tip the funeral director, that is the question. In today’s world we tip all service providers. We tip our restaurant servers, baristas, barbers, housekeeping at hotels, valet parkers, and dog walkers. Seems like we tip anyone who provides a valuable service. So, should we tip our funeral directors?
Should I Tip The Funeral Director?
The short answer is: No, you do not tip the funeral director.
Their fees are included in the overall funeral costs. After all, they receive a salary from the funeral home and don’t rely on tips. If your funeral director did a good job, you can send a thank you note or rate them favorably online. You can also refer your friends to your funeral director. Providing a referral is the most sincere form of flattery to them.
5 Funeral Functions To Consider Tipping
If I shouldn’t Tip the Funeral Director, is there someone I should tip? Out of courtesy, consider tipping for other basic funeral functions. Here’s a list of people you may wish to tip for their services:
Limousine Driver/Procession Officials
If you choose to hire a limo to carry close family members to the burial, this tip might not be included in a funeral home’s bill unless the establishment owns its own set of limos.
Caterers/Food Service Staff
If there is going to be a catered meal for the funeral, you should offer the servers a tip of 15 to 20 percent of the total bill. Regardless if you’re having a luncheon after the funeral or a meal at a shiva, tipping the catering staff is necessary.
Many clergy won’t accept a tip for performing a funeral, but offering is good etiquette. In some cases, the clergy use the money as personal funds and in others, the money goes into a church fund. Most honorariums range from $50 to $300.
Funeral Musicians or Singers
In many churches the organist, band, choir and handbell choir perform voluntarily. If they play the music for a funeral, it is good etiquette to offer them a tip for their additional services since they make an extra time commitment to be present. In most cases, $50 to $75 for each musician is customary.
You should offer flower delivery tips. They don’t need to be excessive. You can tip $2-$5 though if you’re expecting a lot of deliveries, make sure to keep extra single bills on hand.