At 27 most of us are dealing with a quarter-life crisis. End of life isn’t the most common conversation at that age. We often do not know what matters most or the meaning of life at that age. Unfortunate cases of a terminal disease at that age are low, but still present all over the world. Holly Butcher, from Grafton, lost a battle with Ewing’s sarcoma, a rare form of cancer that primarily affects young people. Even at such a young age, she wrote a letter a day before her death shining a bright light on what matters most and living meaningfully.
Holly’s Perspective On Life
Holly saw the world with gratefulness. Many of us, who are stuck in the daily 9-to-5 existence, often do not see it so. She made sure that through her experience, we force ourselves to take a step back and find our big picture.
Using the words* of Dr. Lucy Goddard,
What happened to her was tragic. She, however, was not a tragedy.
Learnings From Holly Butcher’s Letter A Day Before Her Death On What Matters Most
1. Each Day is a Gift, Not a Given Right
It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.
That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.
2. Make Your Time Worthy and Meaningful
I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.
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3. Be Grateful for What You Have
Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe. You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling. Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go.
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4. You do You
Eat the cake. Zero guilt. Say no to things you really don’t want to do. Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.
5. Spend Time with Those Who Matter- Connect with Friends and Family
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.
Learning From Holly
It’s heartbreaking and elevating at the same time. For a person with few years of worldly experience, these messages are very much on point. Makes us want to go ahead and do something different too.
Here’s Holly’s full open letter on Facebook.